Old Habits Die Hard

Forever Evolving

What old habits are preventing your evolution?

I am a fraud. For the past couple of years, I have fallen in love with this movement of peace and love within and without. And in many ways, knowing that this was who I wanted to be and how I wanted to live my life, I have brought this way of life into my life. But last week, I realized I wasn’t truly practicing what I was preaching. I can’t just go around saying one thing while my mind and soul are on a whole different level. I started realizing how, aside from WANTING to have love for yourself and love for others…

  • I was a very judgmental person and I often felt like others were judging me constantly watching and critiquing everything I did.
  • I overcompensated in my relationships and with myself because I wanted others to see who I was and where I was going.
  • I desired and constantly worked towards goals while focusing on the absence of those achievements in my life.
  • I would pride myself on being there for others but I spoke only to be heard, and rarely took the time to genuinely listen.

How can I truly have peace with my mind riddled with nonsense?

This blog has played a big role in my development, as I recognize now that I have been confessing a lot of. I have taken a HUGE step back. Looked at myself inwardly and come to the conclusion that I needed to seriously calm down, be patient, be present and observe, and more importantly, be myself!

I can’t believe it has taken me this long to realize that one huge road block in my journey. I’ve continued to talk and preach one way but inside I was battling with OLD HABITS. And I have been trying so hard to find the answer in my chakras, in my yoga practice, in my mantras… but the answer I needed all along was right there.

Let go of those habits and just be. I mean I’ve said it before how could I forget? Old habits have a way of clouding our journey and it is impossible to evolve if those habits rule us.

It all started when I stopped trying so hard. I know who I am, I know where I’ve been, and I know where I’m going. Why am I making things more complicated? Society knew exactly what it was doing when it molded me into an overthinking, overcompensating maniac.

Before I think or over think. Before I speak. Before I act or overact. Before I judge. When I feel like my old habits are creeping up on me. I simply think…

No Need

  • No need to judge others according to my standards and no need to ponder what they’re thinking of me. Just be myself
  • No need to overcompensate and exaggerate myself for others. Calm down
  • No need to constantly bring attention to what I don’t have right now. Be present and enjoy what I do have
  • No need to interrupt others just to get my point across. Listen. Half the time I have missed the point because I wasn’t actually listening. Be patient

And, guys, the gratification I received from practicing this was instant! The world seemed to open up more, and I felt optimistic. And living became a little easier.


It truly takes work. And, like I’ve mentioned before, the more we practice the more it becomes a way of life.

I’d love to hear your thoughts! Are you having trouble in your journey? Have you ever sat back and thought about who you used to be? Do think that person has interfered with your evolution?

With Light,


5 thoughts on “Old Habits Die Hard

  1. *Just Me says:

    For years i’ve been living my life trying to please people and trying to be someone that i’m not. Even in my last relationship which I realize now that was seriously not healthy for me, i’d tried to please this person and try to be on this high level like he claim to be on but at the end of the day, i wasn’t happy because i wasn’t being myself and it was literally draining me mentally. At this point in my life, i truly don’t care what people say. Again, at the end of the day these people are not paying my bills. Today I feel so free and happy. I know that in order to be and feel free and happy i need to rid the people in & around me that lives as if their “Shit Don’t Stink”. But imma end tgis right here cause can go on & on but i have to go. I hope i didn’t get off track which i prollie did cause i kinda forget that I’m talking & talk a little too much like im doing now. Lol

    I Love Your Blogs. It’s very inspiring, motivating and definitely an eye opener to a lot of things that we really don’t think about. Keep up the good work. You’re awesome.


    • peaceloveeffey says:

      Thank you! I’m so grateful that you enjoy my posts and they resonate with you. That is definitely my intention.

      And I am so unbelievably happy for your freedom! And I can tell that you have evaluated your life and the people you let in. You’re so right about not internalizing what other people believe or want for us. That’s definitely a habit that has become pretty old for me more and more each day. No need to please or worry about what others think, they don’t help to pay our bills… lol I love that, it’s so true.

      Thank you for always connecting with me! I look forward to your thoughts always 🙂


  2. steveedreff says:

    I’ve thought about who I used to be and who I was before that and so on . It’s interesting in my life it’s like chapters . One ends and another begins and I almost forget the person before as if it was another life or another person . Pretty strange huh ? But I have made it to being the person I hope I will stay at . 😂

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    • peaceloveeffey says:

      I feel you 🙂 sometimes I remember the person I used to be and think “wow, who was that person?” And it’s usually a great feeling. But every so often I find I’ve held on to detrimental habits. But we’re human right? And I think, if we’re smart, we continue to evolve and grow. Kudos to you though for truly liking the person you’ve become and thanks for connecting with me! 🙂

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    • *Just Me says:

      @steve, it’s scary to know that society is molding people to think, feel, do, say, etc. & we don’t even know it. I would say it’s the government doing. Lol. for real though. However our life is like a story book. We go through a lot of changes/situations in our lifetime it is just like “one chapter ends” another begins. I hope the changes we make & each chapter of our lives is for the better. I’m also glad you’re at a chapter in your life that you’re happy with. Keep your head up & stay strong.

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